631-219-1954
Divorce mediation is a private and confidential process where the couple controls the outcome of their agreement. Individuals are empowered to make their own decisions. The mediator remains neutral between the couple while assisting the couple in formulating ideas based on the facts that are gathered. These ideas will lead to an agreement that makes sense and stands the test of time.
Mediation is a non-adversarial family centered approach. The goals are to help the couple learn to communicate and not view each other as adversaries. Mediation seeks to reduce the stress and trauma of divorce. By working together, couples preserve their families, save money and heal quicker.
Why Choose Divorce Mediation?
Separation and divorce are very stressful and upsetting events for each spouse and their families. Emotional, psychological, spiritual, and financial issues can be overwhelming and affect the entire family.
Mediation helps the couple and the family heal quicker and start the process of moving toward a new beginning. Mediation is a non-adversarial approach aimed at helping the couple reach their own decisions and negotiate a legal agreement that saves the family, relationships, time, and money.
The typical adversarial divorce can foster aggression and dependency on each side’s representative. This can create a false hope. The adversarial or court system tends to lead people to regress to behaviors where each spouse wants their “fair share”. This can cause feelings of suspicion and mistrust. Recovery rates take much longer than with mediation. In mediation, couples learn to deal with the issues and with each other. The process also protects the children and preserves the family.
What is Divorce Mediation?
The Goal of Mediation
My goal for the couple is to help them reach a settlement that is agreeable to both individuals. We also work together to help the couple make decisions that are financially beneficial to themselves and their children.
The couple uses the data and facts that we gather together to make informed decisions. Because the couple works together to reach a settlement, the agreement is more likely to be adhered to. Each spouse is able to heal quicker by taking control of their part of the process.
What is Covered?
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Budget
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Distribution of Property and Assets/Liabilities
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Parenting Plan
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Child Support
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Holiday Schedule
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Maintenance
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Insurance
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Retirement
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Tax Implications
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Any other issues the couple needs to discuss to develop a long lasting agreement that will be adhered to.
During the divorce mediation process the following areas are covered:
Five Session “On the Fence” Couples Program
On the fence about moving forward to end your marriage or seeking therapy to work toward staying together?
New Beginnings is offering a brief but intense program to help you and your spouse explore what makes you happy, what you need in the relationship, what you are willing to do for your spouse, and what you can live without. We will explore life together and apart. Contact me at
631-219-1954 for more information.
Mediation vs. Litigation
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Mediation is much less costly.
Litigation can cost $25,000 or more. -
Mediation takes less time, averaging between 4-5 sessions.
Litigation averages at least 18 months. -
Mediation teaches the couple to communicate and work together.
Litigation puts up walls and discourages communication -
Mediation focuses on what is best for the family.
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Litigation can use the children in the battle between the spouses.
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Mediation helps the couple make joint decisions.
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Mediation is confidential.
Litigation is open to public domain.
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Mediation has a compliance rate of 80% with child support agreements.
Litigation only has a rate of 40%. -
Mediation is a non-adversarial approach. Through mediation couples are able to heal quicker by making their own decisions. Couples can save their families, health, time and money. Call today for a no fee consultation: (631) 219-1954.
About the Mediator
Christopher Pulitano has extensive experience as a mediator, marriage and family counselor, substance abuse counselor, school counselor and a director of guidance for several school districts on Long Island.
Christopher Pulitano, Mediator
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